Bliss-full

by Tess on March 14, 2009 · 14 comments

in Community and friends, Learning

encouragingbliss

Warm and wise BlissChick (oh how I wish I’d thought of that for a blog title!) is encouraging participation in her Live your Bliss Accountability Circle. Once a week we’ll encourage each other to invest in our own best selves.

In January I wrote about my intention for this year – to live in the spirit of these words:

..when your heart thrums with delight as you turn towards a specific person, desire or dream, keep moving in that direction…

So what better than Blisschick’s invitation to keep me on track? This week’s question is:

When you visualize your happiest, healthiest, most rockin’est self, what do you see? Where do you see this? What are you doing? Come on! Share!

I love learning. To me it’s sacred space. New facts, new skills, new ideas – it almost doesn’t matter what. There’s a particular moment that comes as I scale the slope of learning and it all begins to come together: still difficult, still things to know, but some of the climb is behind me, and the energy of what I’ve learned gives me the momentum to reach the spectacular view at the top of the slope.

Sometimes the learning slope is a little bump, sometimes a hill, sometimes a mountain.

Often, when I’ve done with the learning, I’ll stop doing what I learned. The activity itself no longer matters to me, I’ve got what I needed from it. I used to think I was a really bad person who couldn’t stick at anything until I discovered writer and coach Barbara Sher. Her book What do I do when I want to do everything (published in the States as Refuse to Choose) identified me as what she calls a Scanner: someone fascinated by so many areas she can’t settle for just one.

One example: in January my baby sister turned 50. As a gift, I put together a book of memories for her using the Blurb publishing service (found via my dear friend Lucy). I lived and breathed that book for two weeks, learning the software, gathering family photographs and other perfect snippets of content, playing with the layout. I was entranced, obsessed, impassioned, convinced my future was in self-publishing books.  I couldn’t wait until the copy finally arrived. It looked great, I gave it to my sister and she loved it. And I haven’t thought about Blurb since.

So what have I learned this week? All about off-grid living, from a book of the same name by Nick Rosen. Ask me about solar panels and batteries, wind turbines, planning regulations for woodland dwellings in the UK, how to heat a yurt. Anything. (And if you really are interested, check out the website here.)

So tell me, who are you when you are your “healthiest, happiest, rockin’est self”?

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lucy 03.15.09 at 1:25 am

right now i am a healthy happy rockin self reading your post! :-) i am so delighted that you love to learn and that you offer us the gift of sharing what you learn…and vice versa…your blurb experience and mine are uncannily similar. maybe i’ll dive back in there one day soon. rock on, tess!!

Tess 03.15.09 at 1:52 pm

Lucy, you’ll always rock for me, babe!

kigen 03.15.09 at 7:43 pm

Hi Tess, about this:
“..when your heart thrums with delight as you turn towards a specific person, desire or dream, keep moving in that direction…”

Among interests that thrill me, the study of Emily Dickinson’s poetry is right at the top. Some of the most inspiring are her poems that travel somewhere profoundly distant and then indicate that there was never any arrival anywhere other than the transcendent actualiity of the moment expressed:

Two Butterflies went out at Noon –
And waltzed upon a Farm,
Then stepped straight through
the Firmament
And rested, on a Beam –

And then – together bore away
Upon a shining Sea –
Though never yet, in any Port,
Their coming mentioned – be –

If spoken by the distant Bird –
If met in Ether Sea
By Frigate, or by Merchantman –
No notice – was – to me –

Endlessly Restless 03.15.09 at 8:11 pm

Tess

I guess that I’m a wee bit like you – I love learning. For me it takes the form of gathering lots of data for widely varied sources, living with the uncertainty of complexity, looking for connections or patterns, then simplifying it so that I can understand it. One of my many failings though is failing to follow through, tidy up the learning and store it for any future use. At one point I thought that blogging might help with that – how wrong can I be!!!

Sunrise Sister 03.15.09 at 10:40 pm

Tess – I too love the learning and I love the joy of the exchange while learning in a group! I believe that nothing we learn is wasted even if we only use it once and then move on. The stimulation of the new experience and sharing is worth the time spent learning. Also, learning by oneself, via a book, the internet – that food for brains is “always” there tucked away for just the right word to wake it up. I find learning and the brain’s treasured secrets that come and go to be a fascinating subject in itself —– but, this may surprise you, I haven’t enrolled for a brain surgeon class any time soon:)! I’m happy to sit on the side and speculate to my heart’s content about how my brain works now and how it improves every day:))

pam at beyondjustmom 03.16.09 at 1:15 am

Excellent question! I did some (easy), creative volunteer work this weekend and had a grand old time meeting new people and getting to know them while we painted sets. I realized I haven’t done enough of that lately–creative, helpful work in a social setting. I’ve enjoyed the outlet of learning so much through the blogging world these last few months, but I do really thrive in a social atmosphere. So I need to get OUT more and play!

Tess 03.16.09 at 2:03 pm

@kigen: Emily Dickenson’s poems are among those I am less familiar with, but they have been nibbling at the edge of my mind for some time. The one you give us hear is beautiful.
@Endlessly Restless: yes I share with you the failure to follow through! Your comment on your blogging made me smile.
@Sunrise Sister: well I think you’d make a very good brain surgeon!!!
@Pam: I enjoy that sort of thing as well, and like you don’t do enough of it. I’m quite shy in “normal” social settings and have trouble with small talk, but having a shared task or mission blasts away so many barriers.

Sib 03.16.09 at 5:19 pm

Oh, I wish that the book you recommended ‘What do I do when I want to do everything’ was still available. I have just read the reviews on Amazon and they really speak to me – I am very obviously a scanner living with a diver, which at times makes me feel rather superficial. Always moving on to something else (though some very treasured fixed points – and people – now ’stick’). Remember getting rather upset at school because ‘I was good at everything’ (not even true!) while I really wanted to be very good at one thing. Your blog makes me think, and feel, and enjoy – a wonderful companion on the journey.

Tess 03.17.09 at 10:01 am

Sib, thanks for your comment, and I, too, value the ‘treasured fixed points and people’. We seem to be finding out we have so much in common, it’s great!

tinkerbell, the bipolar faery 03.19.09 at 2:14 am

Love the energy your blog emits. And … the question … its making me think. I am on a journey … this question is food for this journey. I do love learning too … and creating … and helping others learn.

Barbara 03.20.09 at 2:13 am

It has taken me a while to find when my “rockin’ est moments” are. I, too, enjoy learning, but there are times when my competitiveness nibbles at me and spoils things a bit. I guess I feel best-est when I am orchestrating a big, multicourse meal for a bunch of friends. Haven’t done that in ages, alas. It verges on the orgasmic.

Tess 03.20.09 at 1:43 pm

@tinkerbell: thank you for commenting, and welcome to my blog. Being on a journey is wonderful, isn’t it?
@Barbara: the meal sounds great. Perhaps an Easter Day feast?

Barbara 03.23.09 at 2:04 pm

I too love learning and helping others to learn even if it means compiling a great book/web site list on a topic. I too want to share what I’ve found. I’m still trying to find the best way to do that.

Tess 03.23.09 at 3:51 pm

Barbara, thank you, I think learning is so important to our lives.

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