Comments on: What is perfect?

By: Sharon

Sharon — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:38:48 +0000

Tess,
Having had my son Ethan at 42 I empathise totally with what you’ve so articulately written. I had to entertain some thought patterns during that pregnancy that I really wasn’t comfortable with.

May you feel God’s arms around you during the coming weeks as you face these first milestones without your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Beautiful post xx.

pax

Sharon xx

By: Sunrise Sister

Sunrise Sister — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 16:19:45 +0000

Tess, I can’t add much to the support that you’ve been offered here. Your words are sincere, heart-felt, and encompass so much of the doubt that I as a parent have felt over the years. Parenting is not an easy job and as a very young mother had no idea what I was getting in to. Because I was married when I first conceived and prior to all of the pre-birth testing, abortion never would have occurred to me then. But now, with all of the tests available and full disclosure of what a down syndrome child might mean to a couple, I can understand why they waver with what seems so natural – and that is to love the child in your womb.
Your portrayal and life with your brother is a blessing and a testament to God’s love given to you all in a package you weren’t expecting but one that you would never have considered returning.

By: Abbey of the Arts

Abbey of the Arts — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 13:58:32 +0000

Tess, I was really moved by your words. I love the reality of it, someone with Downs is a joy to behold and sometimes a pain in the butt. Ah, the grace of human relationship. I find that statistic very hopeful.

By: Pam

Pam — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 13:37:44 +0000

What a thoughtful post. I really appreciate how you shared your personal view as pro-choice in such a respectful, open-minded way. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone could dialogue with such thoughtfulness?
Happy Thanksgiving.

By: Tess

Tess — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 12:59:50 +0000

Thanks Marisa. I’ve never had children – never felt it was right for me, and never regretted the decision (it’s now too late biologically).
But there was a time not too many years ago when I felt despair for this world and thought it was a terrible thing for anyone to bring a child into it. I still wonder what people with large families are doing, given population concerns.
What I’m leading up to saying, though, is that the world so needs parents such as I’m sure you and your husband will be: thoughtful, wise and loving. I’m sure you’ll know when the time is right.

By: Girl Who Cried Epiphany

Girl Who Cried Epiphany — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 02:09:07 +0000

Thank you for this post, Tess. As I know motherhood is likely to change my life in the near future (I am two years married and am starting to feel like it really is time…) I have all sorts of fears, acknowledged and otherwise, about what perfection means when it comes to having a child. Thanks for giving me another pebble of wisdom to place in my pocket as I walk down the path to giving life to another. Blessings, Marisa

By: Tess

Tess — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 23:51:36 +0000

Lucy, thank you, and what a thoughtful comment about Philip.
Yolanda, thanks, hugs back.

By: yolanda

yolanda — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 23:01:34 +0000

I so agree with your feeling on this. I am sending you love and hugs this holiday season.

By: lucy

lucy — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:12:46 +0000

the title says it all – what is this thing we call perfection? i am all about changing old definitions and learning to accept what we are given rather than expecting something different!

sending you much love and warm wishes as you enter this first holiday season without philip .

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