Comments on: Sunday Collection: Anger http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/ Your house shall not be an anchor but a mast - Khalil Gibran Tue, 17 Jan 2012 23:42:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tess http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2811 Tess Mon, 12 May 2008 14:27:35 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2811 Rachelle, you're very welcome! Rachelle, you’re very welcome!

]]> By: Rachelle Mee-Chapman http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2810 Rachelle Mee-Chapman Mon, 12 May 2008 14:23:17 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2810 Hey Tess! Thanks for the link love! Rachelle Hey Tess!

Thanks for the link love!

Rachelle

]]> By: Tess http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2809 Tess Mon, 12 May 2008 08:23:55 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2809 Andy: you're absolutely right about assertiveness, and denying assertive behaviour can often lead on to aggression. Barbara: this disjointed feeling is common in a lot of people. A disconnect. I might email you separately on this. Elaine: you always make me feel good when you tell me I've helped. Thank you. And I don't get the impression your garden is about hiding, I think it's about healing. ER: I look forward to hearing the strains of I feel pretty wafting south of the border! Paul: thank you for your comment, and welcome to this space. Threat is a good word in this context. Andy: you’re absolutely right about assertiveness, and denying assertive behaviour can often lead on to aggression.
Barbara: this disjointed feeling is common in a lot of people. A disconnect. I might email you separately on this.
Elaine: you always make me feel good when you tell me I’ve helped. Thank you. And I don’t get the impression your garden is about hiding, I think it’s about healing.
ER: I look forward to hearing the strains of I feel pretty wafting south of the border!
Paul: thank you for your comment, and welcome to this space. Threat is a good word in this context.

]]> By: Paul Maurice Martin http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2808 Paul Maurice Martin Mon, 12 May 2008 03:50:07 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2808 I think that's absolutely correct - it's impossible to be angry without an underlying sense of threat. If one felt in no sense threatened, then what would there be to get so excited about? I think that’s absolutely correct – it’s impossible to be angry without an underlying sense of threat. If one felt in no sense threatened, then what would there be to get so excited about?

]]> By: Endlessly Restless http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2807 Endlessly Restless Sun, 11 May 2008 19:22:20 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2807 Hi Tess I really laughed at the movie clip (must watch that one some time) - because singing is one of the ways that I defuse my anger. Of course, you have to be careful about the songs that are in your head - especially in the office! Having said that, I haven't resorted to "I feel pretty" so far, but you never know... Actually, I now try to use singing to avoid the angry stuff in the first place. Hi Tess

I really laughed at the movie clip (must watch that one some time) – because singing is one of the ways that I defuse my anger. Of course, you have to be careful about the songs that are in your head – especially in the office!

Having said that, I haven’t resorted to “I feel pretty” so far, but you never know…

Actually, I now try to use singing to avoid the angry stuff in the first place.

]]> By: Elaine http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2806 Elaine Sun, 11 May 2008 18:16:57 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2806 Oh Tess, you've done it again for me. Turned a "Duh" moment -- actually a day-and-a-half of being very dense -- into an "A-ha" moment. I read Rachelle's Anger Altar post earlier this week, was impressed by it and made a comment on her site. But --"duh" -- I didn't apply the lesson to myself earlier this weekend. Instead I turned the anger inward, got into a downward spiral of self-pity and a few other negative emotions and then, in an attempt to purge myself of these feelings, started to vent verbally and quite inappropriately to a close friend -- thinking if I did this I would feel better. Well I felt worse because I brought someone very dear to me down. So thanks for the knock on the head -- sometimes I can be so dense. I'm going to create some sort of safe place for anger-venting. I must confess, though, it is unlike me to become so angry over what was really just a disappointment and inconvenience. It makes me wonder -- actually I think you've hit the nail on the head -- are we pushed beyond our limits as we try to cope with basic activities of living. Some days life is just too fast, complex and impersonal, if not harsh, for me. (So then I go hide in my garden :-). Oh Tess, you’ve done it again for me. Turned a “Duh” moment — actually a day-and-a-half of being very dense — into an “A-ha” moment. I read Rachelle’s Anger Altar post earlier this week, was impressed by it and made a comment on her site. But –”duh” — I didn’t apply the lesson to myself earlier this weekend. Instead I turned the anger inward, got into a downward spiral of self-pity and a few other negative emotions and then, in an attempt to purge myself of these feelings, started to vent verbally and quite inappropriately to a close friend — thinking if I did this I would feel better. Well I felt worse because I brought someone very dear to me down. So thanks for the knock on the head — sometimes I can be so dense. I’m going to create some sort of safe place for anger-venting.

I must confess, though, it is unlike me to become so angry over what was really just a disappointment and inconvenience. It makes me wonder — actually I think you’ve hit the nail on the head — are we pushed beyond our limits as we try to cope with basic activities of living. Some days life is just too fast, complex and impersonal, if not harsh, for me. (So then I go hide in my garden :-) .

]]> By: Barbara http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2805 Barbara Sun, 11 May 2008 17:54:02 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2805 Love that movie clip, Tess!!!!! I remember once someone telling me that what I was expressing was rage. I had no idea. I was so disjointed from my emotions that I could not identify what they were. I still have difficulty with that, truth be told. Pointing it out and facing it, tamed it. Thank you for a very thoughtful post today. Love that movie clip, Tess!!!!!
I remember once someone telling me that what I was expressing was rage. I had no idea. I was so disjointed from my emotions that I could not identify what they were. I still have difficulty with that, truth be told. Pointing it out and facing it, tamed it. Thank you for a very thoughtful post today.

]]> By: Andy http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2804 Andy Sun, 11 May 2008 14:41:01 +0000 http://www.anchormast.com/2008/05/11/sunday-collection-anger/#comment-2804 I'm always reminded of the difference between being assertive, and being aggressive. The former expresses ones own needs, views and opinions giving regard for and valuing others, the latter just explodes and destroys people. We all feel anger, it's how we express it that matters. I’m always reminded of the difference between being assertive, and being aggressive. The former expresses ones own needs, views and opinions giving regard for and valuing others, the latter just explodes and destroys people. We all feel anger, it’s how we express it that matters.

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